Ken Green has been married for over 60 years. That’s right… 60!
About a year ago I ran into Ken and his wife at lunch one day and in the midst of our conversation he asks me,
“Drew… do you know the 3 words every woman wants to hear?”
The boyish grin on his face told me he was up to no good… but when a man who’s been married as long as he has offers you unsolicited advice on women you don’t turn it down. So I leaned in and he gave me the answer:
“Let’s eat out.”
Everyone Has Words They Need to Hear
Those may or may not be the words every woman wants to hear, but humor aside I think that Ken was on to something. The truth is every spouse has something they need to hear.
Sometimes they need affirmation that their hard work is appreciated; sometimes it’s appreciation for all they do to keep things going; or sometimes it is as simple as reminding them that you love them no matter what.
Everyone has words they need to hear: words of affirmation, words of encouragement, words of celebration, words of affection. I may not have been married for 60 years (yet) but I have been married long enough to know that my spouse is unique. She needs to hear certain things from me. And if I want to love her well, I need to know her well enough to know what she needs to hear and when she needs to hear it.
So what does your spouse need to hear? What are they facing right now that has them feeling overwhelmed, insecure, uncertain or maybe even a little lost? And what words could you offer them that would help them face whatever it is they are facing?
Sometimes all it takes are a few simple words:
“I love you.”
“How can I help?”
“I believe in you.”
“I’m in this with you.”
or maybe even,
“Let’s eat out.”